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Saturday, August 11, 2012

19th CENTURY ETIQUETTE - INTRODUCTORY CEREMONIES

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INTRODUCTORY CEREMONIES

Mode and manner, use of titles, etc., in personal introductions.-We presume there can be no better authority on this and kindred points, than that accomplished lady and authoress, Miss Leslie, whose directions are – in introducing a gentleman to a lady, address her first, as for instance – “Miss Smith, permit me to make you acquainted with Mr. Jones” – or, “Mrs. Furley, allow me to present Mr. Wilson” – that is, you must introduce the gentleman to the lady, rather than the lady to the gentleman. Also, if one lady is married and the other single, present the single lady to the matron, - “Miss Thomson, let me introduce you to Mrs. Williams.” It is in good taste to mention the name of the town or city to which either may belong, as “Mrs. Stephens, of Boston” – “Mr. Warren, of New Orleans.”

In introducing a foreigner, it is proper to present him as “Mr. Howard, from England” – Mr. Dupont, from France.” If you know of what European city he is a resident, it is better still to say that he is “from London” – “from Paris.”

Likewise, in traducing one of your own countrymen, recently returned from a distant part of the world, make him known as “Mr. Davis, just from China” – “Mr. Edwards, lately from Spain” – or “Mr. Gordon, recently from South America.”

These slight specifications are easily made; and they afford, at once, an opening for conversation between the two strangers, as it will be perfectly natural to ask “the late arrived,” something about the country he has last visited, or at least about his voyage.

When presenting a member of Congress, mention the State to which he belongs, as “Mr. Hunter, of Virginia” – “Mr. Chase, of Ohio,” etc. Recollect that both senators and gentlemen of the House of Representatives are members of Congress – Congress including the two legislative bodies. In introducing a governor, designate the State he governs – as, “Governor Penington, of New Jersey.” For the chief magistrate of the republic, say simply “The President.”

In introducing members of your own family, always mention, audibly, the name. It is not sufficient to say “my father,” or “my mother” – “my son” – “my daughter” – “my brother” – or “my sister.” There may be more than one surname in the same family. But say, “my father, Mr. Warton” – “my daughter, Miss Wood” – or “my daughter-in-law, Mrs. Wood” – “my sister, Miss Mary Ramsay” – “my brother, Mr. James Ramsay,” etc. It is best in all these things to be explicit. The eldest daughter is usually introduced by her surname only – as “Miss Bradford” – her younger sisters, as “Miss Maria Bradford” – “Miss Harriet Bradford.”

In presenting a clergyman put the word “Reverend” before his name – unless he is a bishop, and then, of course, the word bishop suffices. The head of a college-department introduce as “Professor,” and it is to them only that the title properly belongs, through arrogated by all sorts of public exhibitors, mesmerists and jugglers included.


Thornwell, Emily, THE LADY’S GUIDE TO COMPLETE ETIQUETTE, New York, Belford, Clarke & Company, 1884

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