Diane Kalas, Inspirational Historical Romance Author

“Hope deferred maketh the heart sick; but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life.” Proverbs 13:12 (KJV)





Saturday, November 10, 2012

19th CENTURY ETIQUETTE - DECEPTIVE REMARKS AND REPRESENTATIONS

Diane's Antique Book Collection (just a few)

The Art of Conversing with Fluency and Propriety

 Against deceptive remarks and representations.- Much of the civility of fashionable life savors strongly of deception. We refer not only to the habit which some ladies have of sending word to visitors that they are not at home, when they are only engaged, but to the painful regrets, that are often expressed at the distance between calls; to the unspeakable joy which is manifested on meeting a fashionable acquaintance; to the earnest importunity that is exhibited for early visits, when the truth is, in each case, that the real feeling is that of absolute indifference. Guard against duplicity in all its forms. Rely upon it, it is not necessary to true politeness.

 

Thornwell, Emily, THE LADY’S GUIDE TO COMPLETE ETIQUETTE, New York, Belford, Clarke & Company, 1884

3 comments:

Mocha with Linda said...

"Guard against duplicity in all its forms."

Would that they would take this to heart in Washington! LOL

Susan said...

This just shows that we all have to guard against breaking the 9th commandment. Exaggeration is a form of lying, This is very interesting.

Cass Wessel said...

Only five year olds get away with telling the truth at all times. ;o)