Diane Kalas, Inspirational Historical Romance Author

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Saturday, August 25, 2012

19th CENTURY ETIQUETTE-INTRODUCTION IN THE STREET


Diane's Antique Book Collection

Introduction in the street.- Should you, whilst walking with your friend, meet an acquaintance, it is better not to stop to speak, but merely recognize by a bow the one thus met; if you do stop to speak, do not introduce your friend.

            If you meet a gentleman walking with a lady, take off your hat to him, instead of nodding; as this last familiar mode of recognition looks disrespectful towards her.

 
Thornwell, Emily, THE LADY’S GUIDE TO COMPLETE ETIQUETTE, New York, Belford, Clarke & Company, 1884

2 comments:

Mocha with Linda said...

I know this is book's title says it is for the lady, but these instructions sound like they are addressed to the gentleman, at least the last one. Women wouldn't be able to take off their hats anyway - they were attached with pins! Even the first one, about bowing, sounds more like it's aimed to a man.

And not introducing your friend - I wonder if that's for the friend's protection (privacy or even safety), especially if the friend you are with is a lady.

So many rules back then! LOL

Jocelyn Green said...

This guideline reminds me of a modern-day scenario where two friends are having coffee (instead of walking on the street) and one friend gets a call on the cell phone. It's more polite NOT to take the call, and to continue chatting with the friend you intended to spend time with. So I wonder if the same principle applies in this nineteenth century rule. It's just more polite to the person you're already with not to stop and have a conversation with an acquaintance. Does that make sense?